After much foot-dragging and many late night talks, the decision was made to go for it.
But before they actually did anything precipitous, like posting in a Poly forum, they discussed these issues: Some have other specific issues that are important to them, but this list is what I’m going to focus on, and trust me, it is plenty.
However, as you might guess, I’m going to point out that there are some problems.
One of the first problems is when you don’t talk about your preexisting expectations up front.
I am not going to argue that anyone and everyone who is going to try Poly MUST be out as being Poly.
Really, people need to exercise discretion about a great many things in their life, this is no different from any somewhat controversial choice that a person might make, based on the morals and values of their community.
People can actually be perpetuating unhealthy, dysfunctional standards and practices while being completely unaware that they are part of the problem.
Our Unicorn Hunters are good, thoughtful, compassionate people.
One of our intrepid Unicorn Hunters ran into the idea of swinging/open relationships/polyamory.
Much to their mutual surprise, neither party completely dismissed the idea (maybe someone did the first time, but they came back to it later, and finally the idea stuck).
This is one of the most sought-after arrangements when a couple new to polyamory looks to open their relationship.
Couples usually discover such a woman is almost impossible to find. So, you just posted on this really cool Poly forum that your friend told you about.